“Learning that a spouse has been unfaithful is shattering. A betrayed spouse’s mind fills with questions: “How could you do this to me?” “Who was this person?” “How long has it been going on?” “What was the sex like?” “Do you love them?” “How will I ever be able to trust you again?” In the early aftermath, many couples have marathon talk sessions—and the unfaithful spouse is often willing to help the betrayed spouse regain equilibrium. But when the betrayed’ s “need to know” urge lingers, unfaithful spouses can begin to question the value of continuing to talk about it; after all, it doesn’t feel very good …. At this juncture many couples seek professional help. They’re looking for direction and a mediator—someone to tell them who’s right and who’s wrong …. Answers to questions about the infidelity can be painful for the betrayed spouse to hear; they may feel like lashing out at their partner. While this is understandable ….  Infidelity doesn’t always have to be a marriage-ender. In fact, after the hard work of mending, many couples find that they’re more in love than before, but they needed their therapist to offer concrete suggestions and firm coaching every step of the way.” “Dissolving Relationships.” Psychology (June 2026).