“Loneliness is the feeling we get in our heart and soul when we want to be connected with someone, and someone is not available to connect with. This can certainly occur when we are alone, but it also occurs in relationships when one or both partners are unavailable for connection — due to being angry, withdrawn, tired or ill.” This statement is from the Huffington Post at http://www.huffingtonpost.com/margaret-paul-phd/relationship-advice_b_1931687.html . We can help with a couple’s lost connection. and can improve communications and intimacy. This is extremely important for the mental health of couples and their well being.
The gig economy makes for increased anxiety and depression. It impacts the starting of families, long-term relationships, and intimacy. Counseling can address this uncertain and unstable environment in this new economic era.
Many people feel a loss of control as a result of the recent presidential election. What’s the remedy? Focus on what you can control. For example, caring for others, small acts of kindness, engage in self-care, and talk to your therapists. However, this will take time. Remaining optimistic is always a good idea.
“Post Election Distress.” The Atlantic (November 10, 2016).
How to increase sexual interest in relationships?
The answer is really simple. Be nice and genuinely interested in your partner. That means to listen. Pay attention to details and to be responsive to their needs.
Increase intimacy out of the bedroom increases desire in the bedroom.
“How to Rekindle Sexual Desire — Be Nice.” Wall Street Journal (Oct. 18, 2016).
It is becoming clearer that changes in the economy have dramatically added to the withdrawal of some men and women from the labor force. These changes have contributed to more painkiller dependency, divorce, and great deal more of anger. The following are two quotes from a recent lead editorial in the New York Times (Oct. 17, 2016).
- The connection between chronic joblessness and painkiller dependency is hard to quantify …. Some experts suspect that frequent use of painkillers is a result of being out of work, because people who have no job prospects are more likely to be depressed, become addicted to drugs and alcohol and have other mental health problems.
- While it’s hard to generalize across a large group of people, it’s clear that job market changes can have significant health effects on the labor force. … [S]oaring levels of prescription opioid addiction in the general population … [add to these effects].
My observation is that as joblessness increases so does the need for mental health counseling. This is critically necessary in order to avoid other health problems such as addition and depression.
“The Men Missing from the Job Market.” New York Times (Editorial) (10.17.16)
Good article about the thinking of a marriage therapist who has practiced over 40 years. Some observations by him:
He emphasizes what each person contributes to the marriage;
Takes time to determine if a marriage will last;
Big mistake to gang up on someone;
I do give “homework” especially to increase intimacy;
I can tell if therapy is working if they are making progress in their relationship. Then I ask them.
Two or three chronic problems don’t ever go away. Learn to live with them.
Sounds like good conclusions after forty years.Seems very basic. But they are also true.
… “What a Marriage Therapist Really Thinks? Wall Street Journal (April 5, 2016).