Five rules for happy marriage. An interesting discussion of “startup marriages” and “merger marriages.”
“Advice for Happy Life.” New York Times (March 30, 2014).
THE Relationship Question — What is it? What to do About it?
Good discussion about how to revive a couple’s relationship. Surprising answer. Act like a teenager. But this article has a great deal more to say also.
….. “Relationship Questions (More Sex).” Wall Street Journal (Feb. 11.2014),”
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Better Communication with your Spouse — Tips for Men and Women.
Really interesting article on communication between spouses. It provides tips for better communication for both men and women. Addresses a broad range of topics discussing intimacy to chores. …. “Speak Your Spouse’s Language.” Wall Street Journal (December 17, 2013).
Rating A Marriage ….. 40-Question Test ….. Good Starting Point.
A good new survey that rates marriages has recently been published. While not giving an detailed assessment of your marriage it does provide an excellent basic starting point.
….. “Rate Your Marriage (WSJ 12.4.13).” Wall Street Journal (December 3, 2013).
Website: The Family Therapy Center of McLean. The center is located at 1313 Vincent Place, McLean, Virginia 22101ADHD in Children and Impact on Marriages and Untreated Adult ADHD.
I often assess the impact of a child’s ADHD on marriages. I find the article in the Washington Post this morning to be particularly interesting. It describes how the diagnosis and treatment of ADHD is often difficult. However, I would also contend it’s not only the impact on the child that needs to be determined but also the impact of a child’s ADHD on the parents and their marriage. Of course, when an adult brings untreated ADHD into a marriage this often causes marital problems. …. “Diagnosing ADHD.” (WP 10.29.13).
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Retiring Baby Boomers — Better Communications and Talk Therapy.
The article “How Therapy Can Help in the Golden Years” in today’s New York Times discusses how the elderly can benefit from talk therapy. There is less stigma today than in earlier generations where people were sometimes institutionalized for mental health issues. In my practice I have noticed many older couples exploring roadblocks in their marriages for the first time. They have spent years getting by with day-to-day challenges and never having time to focus on deeper concerns. Now they often want more than just staying together. They don’t want to sweep their issues under the rug. They want a meaningful relationship that can sustain them through tough times ahead. They want and need help with building communication skills, exploring intimacy, and setting new goals into the future. This is a welcomed development.
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Little Spousal Lies or Better Communications?
“Little Lies Spouses Tell” is an interesting article the appeared recently. Its theme is that a little “buffering” may make a marriage happier. But you have to be careful. Trust is the cornerstone of a good marriage. It’s not what you say but how you say it that is very important.
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Does ADHD in Children Lead to Adult Mental Health Problems?
A new study finds that ADHD often follows children into adulthood with other mental health disorders. This new study is worth a second look. To me an early accurate diagnosis is extremely important. ADHD is sometimes a catchall diagnosis for children when they are inattentive, impulsive or acting out. The causes could be attributed to other issues such as anxiety, depression or family stressors. A dual diagnosis, such as ADHD and anxiety can also exist. An early and complete diagnosis and a treatment plan is necessary. It may eliminate complications or a continuation of symptoms into adulthood.
“ADHD Follows Into Adulthood.” Wall Street Journal (March 4, 2013).
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When Not to Forgive — Was Failure One of Competence or Character?
Sometimes it’s good not to forgive. This may depend if the wrongful act stemmed from a lack of competence or character. If there was a failure of competence, maybe then you should forgive. But if there was a failure of character, what’s the use of forgiveness. It’s not going change anything. What do you think?
“Sometimes It’s Good Not to Forgive.” New York Times (February 23, 2013).
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Couples and Business Partners — Yes, It Works.
Very interesting article about couples who are also in business together. This tells me that a business relationship can really reinforce a couple’s relationship generally. Perhaps not always but often. This is important as more couples are entering the marketplace together in these uncertain times. “Couples and Business Partners.” Washington Post (Feb. 14, 2013).
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