Here’s a new study that lists six critical factors that makes an affair more likely. Most significant — opportunity & dissatisfaction. Best defense — Open communication with your spouse.
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What Do Google Analytics (Searches) Say About Sex & Our Relationships?
Extensive analysis of Google analytics concludes “….. hidden insecurities. Men and women are united in this insecurity and confusion.” One additional conclusion, “Many of our deepest fears about how our sexual partners perceive us are unjustified. ” Seems to argue for better communication. After so much data not very profound conclusions. But still very interesting data.
“What Do Google Analytics (Searches) Say About Sex & Our Relationships?” New York Times (Jan. 25, 2015).
Two Golden Principles of Good Communications …… Interested in People & Their Concerns.
Two principles to follow in the workplace and in all personal communications. One, be interested in other people. Listen, don’t only tell them about yourself. Two, talk in terms of other person’s interest. Being self-centered, a poor listener and communicator are not good in business, inter-personal relations, or in couples communication. This should be obvious but unfortunately it isn’t.
“Golden’ Principles to Follow.” Washington Post (Jan. 19, 2015).
‘Friendship’ and Happy Couples.
A new study concludes that the disadvantages of remaining single have broad implications. It also concludes that ‘friendship’ within marriages is a key determinant if a couple is happy. It further concludes that being happy allows couples to successfully meet the stresses of life. Very interesting study. However, I wonder how accurate this is when talking about the role of friendship within marriage in countries other than the United States. Nevertheless, this is an interesting study and adds to the discussion about marriages and communications by couples. To me ‘friendship’ between a couple is certainly something to strive for .
“Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married.” New York Times (January 8th, 2015).
Does Your Therapist Really Listen to You? — This is Essential.
One of the most important aspects in health care is for the doctor or therapist to carefully listen to the patient or client. This is essential in providing proper diagnosis and treatment. This is true across the board in the health professions. Good news that some professional programs now emphasize this training.
“Doctors and Listening.” New York Times (Jan. 5, 2015).
Good Relationship with Therapist Essential to Good & Effective Therapy.
One of the most important aspects of ensuring good therapy is establishing a good relationship with your therapist. This article describes how really important that is.
“Me and My Therapist..” New York Times (January 4, 2015).
Two Difficult Conversations: Constant Use of Mobile Devices; Having Better Sex.
This article discusses two difficult conversations: constant use of mobile devices; having better sex. Conclusion — don’t blame your partner, just describe the problem. This is good advice on how to start the conversation. Also picking a good time is very helpful. Couples counseling can be very helpful in these situations.
“The Year in Relationship Troubles, and How Talk Can Help.” Wall Street Journal (December 30, 2014).
Google Search Findings & Holidays — Depression, Families and Diet ….. Some Surprises.
Good article discussing Google analytics, search terms and couples during holidays. Major findings: searches for “depression,” “divorce,” and “diet” are lowest on Xmas and the days afterwards. “Hate family” is highest during Xmas. Sounds about right. Especially the diet part.
“What We’re Searching For.” New York Times (12.21.14).
Strategies for the Holidays — “Cognitive Reframe.”
Getting through the holidays is tough for many people. This article suggests that “cognitive reframe” is a strategy to get through the holidays. At its essence it is doing things that remind yourself of times you projected a happy image. Seems common sense to me. But it’s very effective.
“Strategies for the Holidays — To Get Through Them.” Wall Street Journal (December 16, 2014).
Couples-Counseling Connection --- Marriage & Family (McLean, Virginia). 