Now, Therapists at the Office.

Companies say the benefit can be a tool for improving employee performance and, ultimately retention. Employees want mental-health care but often struggle to find the help they need that fits their schedule or is included in their insurance coverage, say executives at several companies. In-house counseling can save time and money and boost workers’ resilience and productivity, as well as their overall health and well-being, say health-care experts and human-resources executives.

 

In the past, discussion of mental-health issues at the office was uncommon. Workers were largely expected to leave their personal struggles at home. Crying was confined to the bathroom stall.

 

Today, that’s changing. One reason is a broadening of the popular understanding of “mental health” to encompass anxiety, stress and other widespread issues.

 

It’s also a reflection of a changing workplace. Younger workers are more comfortable talking about their struggles and expect their employers to take emotional distress seriously, says Jeffrey Pfeffer, a professor of organizational behavior at the Stanford Graduate School of Business.

 

From “The Therapist in the Next Cubicle. “Wall Street Journal (January 31, 2019). https://www.wsj.com/articles/the-latest-perk-for-stressed-out-office-workers-therapy-comes-to-you-11580486984

 

 

Why is Everyone So Depressed?

An excellent op-ed on depression and political events. Really outstanding statement as to role of therapists ……………….

Affording a therapist and finding the right therapist — it is rare: wisdom, empathy and kindness cannot be taught — they are the first obstacles to overcome. Then you might have to find the right and affordable psychiatrist, who will help you make an informed decision about whether to take psychiatric drugs that will or will not help, perhaps even saving your life.

Why is America So Depressed?” NEW YORK TIMES (January 3, 2020). https://www.nytimes.com/2020/01/02/opinion/depression-america-trump.html

Child Crisis & Couples Counseling.

One very common and difficult issue in couples counseling is when the couple disagrees on treatment options for their mentally ill or addicted child.

Therapy helps find a middle ground that they can agree upon and work toto support each other. So they feel less alone with this struggle.

THE FAMILY THERAPY CENTER OF MCLEAN http://www.virginiacounselling.com/

Is There a Way Back from Infidelity?

This is a good article on infidelity. It’s conclusion, surprisingly, is that infidelity by either partner or both, is not necessarily the end of the road. Here’s some thoughts from this New York Times piece from earlier this month …………

“The good news is, depending upon what caused one partner to wander and how determined a couple is to remain together, infidelity need not result in divorce …. But short of irreversible incompatibility or physical or emotional abuse, with professional counseling and a mutual willingness to preserve the marriage, therapists maintain that couples stand a good chance of overcoming the trauma of infidelity and avoiding what is often the more painful trauma of divorce.”

The Hard Road Back From Infidelity.” New York Times (Jan. 28, 2018 )

8 Years as a Board Member of the Virginia Board of Counseling.

                                    

Served 8 years as a gubernatorial appointee on the Board of the Virginia Board of Counseling. This is the licensing and regulatory agency of the Commonwealth of Virginia for licensed professional counselors. A great experience. But now glad to avoid the traffic on I95.

Couples Therapy for One — Yes, It Works.

The following is from a piece published last year —

 

As the name would suggest, couples therapy is intended for couples. But sometimes, only one partner is willing to go. “The resistant partner may fear being vulnerable, think that therapy won’t be helpful or be uncomfortable talking about their problems.” “Regardless of the reasons, I’d say it’s still helpful if the other partner comes in for support.” 

 

My take. This is so true. Often one party may come initially but then over time the other would also joins in.  this is often with good results for the couple’s relationship.

 

“Couples Therapy When Your Partner Won’t Go.” (2016).

“Couples Therapy for One.” (2015).

 

Phone & Online Therapy for Professionals & Others.

Phone Therapy
A new report states:
  • The online counseling field is growing 70 to 80 percent faster than projected since November 2016, when Trump was elected.
  • There are spikes in female, minority, Muslim, Jewish and LGBT customers, among others
  • The majority of patients are millennials, with an average age between 33 and 34.
Although in-person therapy is the standard practice phone counseling is a great alternative for busy professionals and others. This has greatly increased since last November. There are many reasons for this, such as convenience, individuals being more comfortable with online conversations, for those who cannot leave house or office, among others.

 

Phone Therapy is in for Millennials and Others Since Trump Election.” CNBC (May 22, 2017) https://www.cnbc.com/2017/05/22/talkspace-online-therapy-grew-80-percent-faster-since-trump-elected.html
 

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Politics & Relationships …. Avoid Arguments?

Political differences can easily strain family and couple relationships.  Any differences between people can trigger desires to convince the other to ‘see it my way!’  Convincing, however, is less effective, and more likely to create relationship rifts, than simply sharing perspectives.Some people have more ability to allow others to be different. This ability takes patience. It takes willingness to give the other person the benefit of the doubt. This ability also rests on ability to keep your emotions in the calm zone. My best advice is to channel discussions into other directions. It’s more important to keep a good relationship than win an argument.

“Politics and Relationships.” Psychology Today (2016).

Stress and Relationships.

Good recent article on stress and relationships. Although partners in close social relationships often enable one another to manage stress, stress can also undermine the many benefits that these relationships provide. Couple-targeted and stress-targeted interventions both hold promise for empowering couples to sustain their relationship. Good counseling can help reach good results.

Click to access Lavner%20&%20Bradbury%202017.pdf

Dating in the Trump Era — Do Political Differencies Matter?

A good piece in a recent issue of the Financial Times  (FT Wealth) discusses different political views on dating and relationships during the Trump era. Here are some quotes:

 

The politics itself is not to blame, but for some couples it has highlighted a lack of shared values and this has in turn placed tension on their relationship.

Politics is one of the most important criteria used on dating site profiles and in the algorithms such services use.

They’re looking to find reasons to not go on a date with people and politics is a biggie these days, bigger than before the Trump election for sure.

Opposites do not attract — it’s the commonalities of thinking, values, outlook and intellectual curiosity that make relationships sustainable long term.

 They relate to the broader value system of the individual, which is a crucial area in the matchmaking process.

 

From my recent experience in counseling sessions politics has come to the forefront. It’s not clear how political differences will play out during this new political era. But good communications about differences are always important.

A Match Made in Politics.” Financial Times (June 23, 2017)